I would like to begin this week by extending my sincere congratulations to my friends, newlyweds Mr. and Mrs. Stanley McNulty III!
My family and I were honored to be part of your special day.
This week’s blog will be about wedding day and wedding reception etiquette. I would like to focus on hors d’oeuvres as well as eating buffet style at the reception.
Prepare children in advance
For few weeks leading up to the wedding, I made use of our Manners Matter Wedding Day chart.
This chart included all the things my children could do at the wedding and reception. Bella and Chris also enjoyed adding to the chart themselves. Keeping kids engaged in the manners process makes it more fun.
Here are a few of the items from the chart:
- I can say nice words.
- I can shake hands with people and say “hello.”
- I can sit quietly.
- I can watch the bride walk down the aisle.
- I can stay close to Mom and Dad.
- I can walk.
- I can leave my DS game in the car.
Once we made it successfully through the beautiful wedding, it was time for the reception. To my son’s delight, there were a variety of crackers and cheeses.
When crackers and cheese are served as hors d’oeuvers, they can be eaten with the fingers.
If the hors d’oeuvers are served as a first course, then you use utensils. Things such as smoked salmon, melon with prosiutto or asparagus tips with hollandaise would be eaten with a fork.
When approaching the buffet after your table number is called, find the end of the line and wait there.
Be patient if the person in front of you is going slow and allow them time to make their choices.
Try new things, but be careful to avoid overeating. It is often tempting to overfill your plate, but taking small portions will help you maintain portion control.
Always remember to say “please” and “thank you” to the servers.
Each time you visit the buffet, take a clean plate.
Lastly, leave all electronics in purses and pockets. Socialize and connect with the new people you meet at the wedding.