Flaw or trait?

Oooh, excellent question. In a way, I've been thinking about this for a long time.

On one hand, you don't want to be the Ebeneezer Scrooge that holds a grudge. I've seen more and more friendships ruined or put on hold because of a simple miscommunication error that neither party wants to forgive. In fact, it's happened to me several times. Being forgiving opens the door for more good interactions than bad.

On the other hand, you don't want to be a doormat. If someone honestly offends you or makes you angry, you shouldn't force a smile and let them think everything's fine or they'll do it again and walk all over you. As they say, "It takes two to tango," meaning while part of a conflict may be your fault, a small part of the blame does lie with the other party. Don't let yourself be a pushover by always forgiving, forgiving, forgiving.

So, essentially, I guess it depends on how deeply the person in question hurt you =)