Forget the whole whiny “always a bridesmaid, never a bride” cliche. I was over the moon earlier this year when one of my best friends asked me to be part of her bridal party.
OK, truthfully I cried because she was extremely sappy about it, but eventually I stopped blubbering and got excited.
The last time I was a bridesmaid, I was 17 years old and one of my high school best friends was getting married.
Since we were all so young, I basically just had to buy a dress and show up the day of the wedding. The bride’s mom and mother-in-law were kind enough to organize the bridal shower, and the bachelorette party involved us seeing the latest installment of “American Pie.”
This time around, there’s a lot more responsibility.
As the only one of five bridesmaids in the same time zone as the bride, I get to be the go-to girl for special projects. Special projects like cleaning out the entire stock of white vases at Ollie’s in York and trying on the top picks for bridesmaid dresses at local boutiques.
As the big day draws closer, I’ll also be first in line to help out with the bride-to-be’s list of DIY projects (naturally the bride and all of her maids have growing wedding Pinterest boards). But other than making sure the bride gets a pedicure and not cold feet in the days leading up to Sept. 22, I’m clueless at how to be a good bridesmaid.
The Knot offers this handy guide for bridesmaid responsibilities.
Some are no brainers — attend the ceremony rehearsal and rehearsal dinner. I’ve got this.
Others drive home the point of just how serious of an undertaking this whole bridesmaid thing is: Purchase entire ensemble, pay for shower and bachelorette party, buy a gift for the bride. I’ve totally got this. (Full disclosure: I once declined being in a childhood friend’s wedding because I didn’t think I could swing it financially on my first job salary).
And others make me think that my teenage jobs the hospitality industry will come in handy: “Serve as auxiliary hostess at the reception by introducing guests, making sure they know where the bar is located and inviting them to sign the guest book.” Mental note to practice my best flight attendant pointer fingers.
Recently engaged Twenty & Change blogger Jess Krout will be doing a lot of upcoming posts on how to be a bride, but I’m interested in your tips on how to be the perfect bridesmaid.
Leave a note in the comments section with your tricks of the trade (or taffeta-covered horror stories) and we’ll see if we can all get to the alter in one piece later this year.