I love going to weddings, I love being asked to be in weddings, I love brides and grooms and flowers and happiness.
So when a good friend from college asked me to be in her wedding, I didn’t hesitate to say “yes.” I wouldn’t miss the chance to support her through her engagement and help to make her day run as smoothly as possible.
This usually sane college friend always has been down to Earth, very friendly and pretty low maintenance in the past. But it seems that with the engagement ring came a load of insanity.
The less than sane — but somewhat acceptable — behaviors started slowly. Bride-to-be decided the shoes we bought weren’t perfect. No big deal. I just sent the less-fabulous, unworn ones back and got some new kicks. This happened twice, semi annoying, but in the grand scheme of things shipping costs won’t ruin the experience.
But recently, bridezilla reared her ugly head.
If you aren’t familiar with the concept, Dictionary.com defines a bridezilla as “a bride-to-be who focuses so much on the event that she becomes difficult and obnoxious.” The term originated in 1995 and is a mash-up of “bride” and “godzilla.” Dictionary.com was being nice when it came up with its definition.
In a moment of America’s Next Top Model inspired madness, bride-to-be came up with “makeovers” for all her lucky bridesmaids. On the surface, this was fine but kind of strange. She knew what we looked like before, right?
I chalked it up to the bride-to-be wanting her bridesmaids to look our best on her big day, too. Not the case.
Her many makeover demands included hair-color changes (blond for my very not-blond head), extensions, weight loss, weight gain and laser removal of all visible tattoos, among other things.
When I — and others — asked her if she really thought we were going to comply, bride-to-be answered “Of course, it’s my day.”
And when we asked if we could reasonably modify her changes, i.e. covering tattoos with concealer rather than removing them completely, she pitched a fit.
After much talk, some annoyance and no budging, the bridal party and the bride-to-be decided to revisit the makeover issue at a later date.
We’re just hoping the insanity wears off and she goes back to being the nice, down to Earth friend she was before her engagement. And that I don’t end up as a blonde.
Note: I have nothing against blond hair. Many people look and feel great with golden locks, I am not among them.
Have you ever been in a wedding in which the bride had a laundry list of nearly impossible changes? Am I wrong to think this bride-to-be has gone at least a little insane? And if you have had some of the same experiences, what did you do?