Somehow, I’ve reached the age of 23 without attending a bridal shower.
I’ve been invited to a few, but I was either out of town or already committed. I also skipped one accidentally because I wrote down the wrong date, winning me the prize for worst friend ever.
So next Sunday will mark my induction, at a friend’s bridal shower at my alma mater. This, of course, led to a phone call to my mother.
Me: You bring gifts for a bridal shower, right?
Mom: … Yes.
Me: And I can use her bridal registry?
Mom: I’d think so.
Me: It’s not just for the wedding?
Mom: No, I don’t think so.
Things might have changed in the 25-plus years since my mom and dad tied the knot, but I figured I’d trust her judgment and head over to Target this week.
But then at lunch, as I talked it over with a few co-workers, we ran into a dilemma — are bridal showers the same as lingerie showers? Should I be trending toward honeymoon items instead of hampers?
We decided it depends on the friend — and who is throwing the shower. If it’s a mom-hosted event with aunts, Grandma and the bride’s first-grade teacher, you might want to stay on the conservative side. If it’s hosted by friends and the bride is known for her wild side, perhaps Victoria’s Secret is in order. Trust your gut.
In the end, a bridal shower is more about celebrating your friend and being happy for her upcoming wedding — and less about getting everything exactly right on your first try. Or at least, that’s what I keep telling myself…
Bridal-shower pros: Have any tips for a newbie like me? Or did you have a memorable experience at your first bridal (or lingerie) shower? Share your story in a comment below.