By now, most have read about Eliot Spitzer's "failings" involving a prostitution ring, and his wife standing by him during the fallout.
In this AP story, the reporter remarks about his "his weary-looking wife, Silda."
I'm weary of this whole situation.
What is up with the wife having to "share" her husband's public humiliation?
He's the one who was with a prostitute.
He's the one who spent roughly $80,000 doing so.
He should be the one who has to face the public and answer for his behavior - not her.
If I was Silda, I would be at home trying to comfort my three teenaged daughters, and helping them through this mess.
Spitzer would be on his own.
There's standing by your man, and then there is straight foolishness.
When are we as women, going to say - enough?
When are we going to tell our men that this behavior is completely unacceptable, and that we will under no circumstances, go to press conferences or do anything on his behalf to try to smooth over his public image?
When are we going to show them, by our actions, that his disrespect of our marriage, family and everything we hold dear will not be tolerated?
It's not an easy thing to do, but Spitzer would be on his own.
As angry as I'd be about such an indiscretion, he wouldn't want me at the press conference.
A news reporter would ask, "Mrs. powerful man, do you have any comment?"
I'd reply, "Yes. My husband broke our marital vows and publicly humiliated our family. I don't support or condone his actions or the damage he's done.
How we will handle his "failings" as a couple and as a family is a private matter. I respectfully ask the media to leave me and my children alone.
We've done nothing wrong, and should not be held to public scrutiny.
However, my husband will be available for your questions. If you want answers for his behavior, go to him and him alone."
That's probably not the kind of PR that Spitzer's advisors want for him right about now.
Seriously, ladies, we've got to stop standing by these fools when they do stuff like this.
And if we do decide to "stand by" these lasps of judgement, we should do so privately. We can stand by our vows and work on our marriage. We should not, however, have to be humiliated in public during the fallout.
USA Today did this story on why this kind of thing keeps happening.
I don't know. I just know that I'm tired of seeing whole families humiliated because of a spouse's decision to cheat.
My husband should be glad he isn't a randy politician because he knows this fox wouldn't be anywhere near his side if he got into such foolishness.
I cannot believe how these wives can control themselves standing next to their philandering husbands.
I'd like to see a husband stand beside his straying wife for once... just to see how he tolerates the public confession, the questions from the press, etc.
Infidelity is pitiful and inexcusable.
You are so right. She should not have to stand next to him giving him support and comfort, then be subject to ridcule and nasty comments about her appearance. Anybody that has been through that type of shock and hurt would look weary and tired. He should stand up and defend her. I think that it is okay for her to get up there beside him and support him, but I def would have said the statment you made above. The mayor of Detroit's wife Carletta pretty much made that same statement regarding her husband's affair in office.
Its okay to support your guy even in the public eye but it does not hurt to let people know how you truly are feeling. It just might curb future sexual activities in politics. Or NOT